Drowning till Drained

Updated: Jan 21

The invisibility of what we feel is perhaps the most mysterious happening to human beings by virtue of their existence. What we cannot see often leads to trouble in both identification and interpretation of how it is actually affecting us.

We can keep a track record of our physical health with constant assessments, check-ups and appointments with physicians. But how often we forget to ask ourselves an important question through the hustle-bustle of working schedules, to take a minute and ask our minds “How are you doing” and not be intimidated by how it actually feels.

Regulation of one’s emotions, behaviour and action can be a difficult task. Many people lack the awareness that they may be suffering from a mental health concern. Conditioning, internalization, materialism, and a constant need to move ahead has halted our process of evaluating our emotional needs. Our minds, much like our bodies require attention and affection. To periodically revaluate our lives, see what has impacted us emotionally and intellectually, and to review our life’s journey objectively helps put things properly into perspective for us. It allows us to shed the mental baggage that we so often begin to unconsciously carry with us from time to time.

The answer is in the problem itself, the lack of acknowledgement of symptoms stems from a lack of diagnosis, a full-blown attack in the form of denial and hesitation to consult professionals. Educating people about mental well-being is a battle in itself.

The real definition of therapy encompasses from pathology to well-being. The spectrum in between covers a grey area being that people with extremely well to do lives can also feel helpless and trapped without any material discomfort. That is the strange thing about mental health issues, it does not discriminate across the huge range of diversity that humanity has to offer in terms of gender, race, caste, class, sex, poor or rich. It has the potential to play its trick with anyone and anywhere.

The choice to remain unaware is a privilege. However, in order to live well, we do not need to seek big questions, just some simple answers can do the trick.

Humanising lives tend to concerns about all your mental health queries. Beginning from understanding the basics of professional mental health care, how it can optimize your life- the way you live and experience it, how to best understand and acknowledge the issues emerging and creating hurdles in self-awareness and potential and how we provide a safe space for you to unburden the struggles hindering your well-being.

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Q) What is counselling therapy?

Counselling is a process in which clients learn how to make decisions and formulate new ways of behaving, feeling, and thinking. Counsellors focus on the goals their clients wish to achieve. Clients explore their present levels of functioning and the changes that must be made to achieve personal objectives. Thus, counselling involves both choice and change, evolving through distinct stages such as exploration, goal setting, and action.

Clients have adjustment, development, or situational concerns; and their problems require short-term intervention. They are not considered “sick” but “stuck”. Sometimes they just need information, but usually, they are looking for a way to clarify and use the information they already possess. Counselling is theory-based and takes place in a structured setting. Counsellors draw from a number of theories and work in a structured environment, such as an office setting, with various individuals, groups and families.

Q) What is pro bono counselling therapy? Pro bono counselling therapy aims to increase access to mental health counselling for individuals, couples or families who do not have insurance or are otherwise unable to afford mental health counselling. It can be carried out through short or long term sessions managed by the organization offering it.

Q) Why counselling therapy is needed?

Classically we may need therapy at some or any point in our lives. However, it is specifically needed when we go through prolonged periods of experiencing either one or a combination of the following factors causing hindrance in our daily life optimal functioning which includes

● Erratic Mood ● Trust Issues ● Lack of Self Esteem ● Feelings of Anxiety and Apathy ● Resentment towards life and family ● Isolation and Aloofness ● Lacks the willingness to take any initiatives ● Shows territorial behaviour

Counselling Therapy facilitates the unblocking of the pressure points which can be of varied nature including stressors such as academic pressure, familial discord, abuse and trauma, failed relationships leading to self-harming tendencies, anhedonia (inability to feel pleasure), disturbed sleeping patterns and lack of self-esteem. Whilst these are common problems but symptoms can be devoid of all these issues and still the individual can mentally feel empty and isolated. There are no range for symptoms, just absence of assessment and attention to unconscious turmoil which can be uncovered for the betterment of individuals through counselling and professional help.

Q) How should the warning signals be identified and how counselling can help you?

A vast majority of people are well prepared physically and psychologically to cope with many negative physical and psychological events that take place during their lifetime, these can be – Deaths within the family and friends and work associates; Injury; Divorce; Marriage; Stress; Unemployment; Change of jobs; War; Disaster; Birth; etc. Families and friends to help us to absorb many such negative events making painless transitions to accepting the challenges before us.

However, all the above lead to an enormous amount of pressure being placed on the individual and some can cope and others just simply cannot. In addition to the above list, what are considered minor traumas created by man himself/herself can cause as much of a problem on an individual as a major disaster. These could be –

● Physical violence ● Sexual violence ● Sexual discrimination ● Sexual abuse ● Abusive language ● Intolerance ● Negligence

All these events whether natural or man-made all are resulting in the disruption of normal life. A long process of healing is required to bring back normality in the lives of the people who have been exposed to such negative life events, and one of the main healing techniques is called counselling.

Clients can expect to find someone who is interested in listening to their concerns, helping them understand better and guiding them to resolving in a healthy manner. The counsellor will take them seriously, and be willing to discuss anything they wish to talk about. Counsellors have no ‘magic wand’ and cannot read students’ mind, and are not there to solve their problems for them. They are there to help them look at their concerns in a new way, and assist them in deciding how to change what they want to change. (Kabir, 2017)

Q) How Humanising Lives has tried to provide a safe space to work on this problem?

Humanising lives believes the state of good mental health and well-being enables people to realise their own potential, to cope with stress, to work productively and to contribute to their families and communities.

We extend social support to ensure that everyone especially those with the fewest resources holds a good state of mental health and emotional wellbeing to secure opportunities to succeed in life and social/personal relationships, being able to realize their abilities, cope with the normal stresses of life, work productively, and contribute to family and community.

The need for therapy is not limited to attending to traumatic events experienced by an individual. The daily life struggles ranging from spousal conflicts, personal frustration, career backlogs and uncertainties, financial turbulences, dealing with anxiety or simply the need to be heard, we are happy to be here for you in these trying times. Pandemic has